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Constant Complaining: Does It Serve Us?

By Toni Bernhard — 2012

One of the major sources of dissatisfaction and stress in our lives is our ongoing desire to control what happens to us—to get what we want and get rid of what we don't want. I refer to this type of desire as the state of “want, don’t-want.” How much control do we have over our circumstances? With that in mind, let’s start complaining about our lives.

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Trained Not to Cry: The Challenge of Being a Soldier | Richard Doss | TEDxNaperville

Members and Veterans of the US Armed Forces have unacceptably high suicide rates. Why? It’s not the combat experience like one would suggest, but a much more complex issue that needs to be talked about.

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How Telling Our Silenced Stories Can Change the World | Anne Hallward | TEDxDirigo

Shame is at the intersection of individual psychology healing and social change. Clinically, when we follow the path of our shame, we experience the greatest healing, and culturally, when we move past the power of shame we can act together to improve civil rights for all.

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Mental Health within the Black Community | Davonte Sanders-Funches | TEDxNorthCentralCollege

Spoken word meet social critique in this power piece exploring the cyclical nature of mental health challenges within the black community.

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Mental Health Is Declining and Black Women Are Hit the Hardest | Keita Joy | TEDxBeaconStreet

Did you know that in the United States, over 10.3 million adults have serious thoughts of suicide and/or battle with mental health struggles privately while continuing to produce and perform publicly? Imagine living with a constant, lingering private struggle, while performing in front of the world.

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Beginning Anew: Four Steps to Restoring Communication

When we’re upset with someone, we’re often afraid to say anything. We tell ourselves, “Oh, it’s just a small matter; it’s not important.” But the accumulation of many small issues can create an explosive situation, and can even cause relationships to break.

Sister Chan Khong

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The Art of the Metaphor - Jane Hirshfield

How do metaphors help us better understand the world? And, what makes a good metaphor? Explore these questions with writers like Langston Hughes and Carl Sandburg, who have mastered the art of bringing a scene or emotion to life. Lesson by Jane Hirshfield, animation by Ben Pearce

Jane Hirshfield

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Saeed Jones: Writing Yourself Out of “The Room”

In this clip from Overheard, poet and author Saeed Jones talks about why he wrote his memoir, “How We Fight for Our Lives.”

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Saeed Jones on Growing Up Black and Gay in the South | Xtra

Xtra’s senior editor Eternity Martis spoke to Saeed Jones, author of How We Fight For Our Lives, about writing, self-care, protest and how people of colour and LGBTQ2 folks can fight for their lives in the Trump era.

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Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication

Whether we are dealing with a rude clerk, our child saying, “That’s not fair!,” our spouse ignoring us, or an uncooperative co-worker, in our struggle to respond effectively, we often become defensive—sometimes without even realizing it.

Sharon Strand Ellison

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Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong.

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