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How to Comfort Someone

2017

In this video, Dr. Allison shares a simple formula for delivering a compassionate and comforting response to those we care about most.

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Say You're Sorry and Mean It

Forgiving someone is a way of letting go of old baggage so that you can heal and move forward with your life. It benefits both the person who forgives and the offender because it can allow both people to let go of past resentments.

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Terry Gaspard
2022
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How to Live Compassionately: Forgive Yourself Forgive Others

According to the dictionary, to forgive is to stop feeling angry or resentful toward yourself or others for some perceived offense, flaw, or mistake. Keeping that definition in mind, forgiveness becomes a form of compassion.

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Toni Bernhard
2016
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FindCenter Quotes ImageWhen forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImagePeople’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImageEveryone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.

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C. S. Lewis
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The Compassionate Instinct: The Science of Human Goodness

Leading scientists and science writers reflect on the life-changing, perspective-changing, new science of human goodness. Where once science painted humans as self-seeking and warlike, today scientists of many disciplines are uncovering the deep roots of human goodness.

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Dacher Keltner (editor), Jason Marsh (editor), Jeremy Adam Smith (editor)
2010
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The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life (Tenth Anniversary Edition)

When The Power of Kindness first appeared in 2006 it thrilled and challenged readers with one audacious promise: Your acts of generosity and decency are the secret to a fuller, more satisfying life. Kindness is not some squishy virtue, but the very key to your own happiness.

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Piero Ferrucci, The Dalai Lama (preface)
2016
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Reaching Out for Compassion

At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.

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Tara Brach
2014
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Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN

Tara Brach is an in-the-trenches teacher whose work counters today's ever-increasing onslaught of news, conflict, demands, and anxieties—stresses that leave us rushing around on auto-pilot and cut off from the presence and creativity that give our lives meaning.

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Tara Brach
2020
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Right Here with You: Bringing Mindful Awareness into Our Relationships

In recent years scientists have discovered that mindfulness can reduce stress, improve mood, and enhance our sense of well-being.

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Andrea Miller (editor), Harold Kushner, John Welwood, Elizabeth Gilbert, Thich Nhat Hanh, Tara Brach (contributors)
2011
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