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Aspie Shutdown and Withdrawal: Dealing with Sudden Emotional Withdrawal in Relationships

2020

Aspie shutdown and withdrawal is a big part of how autism affects relationships. See more...

06:29 min

FindCenter Quotes ImageThe strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don’t want to.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImageOnly through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

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Harriet Lerner
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Ten Steps to Having Both a Relationship and a Self

How to have a strong self and a strong relationship without losing either.

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Harriet Lerner
2020
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Three Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person

These three rules for voicing your criticisms are game changers.

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Harriet Lerner
2020
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Overcoming Your Listening Disorder

We naturally become defensive when our spouse begins to criticize us. We listen to refute or correct the inaccuracies, distortions and exaggerations that are inevitably there. The challenge is to listen only to understand.

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Harriet Lerner
2012
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Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up

This marriage book provides couple’s therapy in a unique format perfect for today’s world. The renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives readers more than one hundred rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships.

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Harriet Lerner
2012
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The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice.

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Harriet Lerner
2002
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Autism