By Cindy Lamothe — 2017
Some people who have to be responsible for their siblings or parents as children grow up to be compulsive caretakers.
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The cynical backlash against the success of the personal growth movement is both frustrating and painful for John Bradshaw, the psychologist and author who coined the term “inner child” and popularised the phrase “dysfunctional family.”
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Mr. Bradshaw found fame with books and television shows proposing that emotional and psychological damage experienced in childhood was the root of adult ills.
If the threats we encounter are extreme, persistent, or frequent, we become too sensitized, overreacting to minor challenges and sometimes experiencing symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder, or PTSD.
Victims of childhood sexual abuse are far more likely to become obese adults. New research shows that early trauma is so damaging that it can disrupt a person’s entire psychology and metabolism.
Dissociation from oneself has long-term implications for who we become.
Many people hope that once they leave home, they will leave their family and childhood problems behind. However, many find that they experience similar problems, as well as similar feelings and relationship patterns, long after they have left the family environment.
When you think of your mother, does your heart open with compassion or tighten with resentment? Do you allow yourself to feel her tenderness and care? The way we receive our mother’s love can be similar to how we experience love from a partner.
The Fix Q&A with Dr. Gabor Maté on addiction, the holocaust, the “disease-prone personality” and the pathology of positive thinking.
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Dr. Gabor Maté, a well-known addiction specialist and author, spent 12 years working in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside, a neighborhood with a large concentration of hardcore drug users.