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How to Help Today's Perfectionist Girls Love Themselves

By Lindsay Sealey — 2017

By linking their value to approval from others, they are searching outside of themselves in order to feel good and worthy.

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The Problem with Being Perfect

A trait that’s often seen as good can actually be destructive. Here’s how to combat it.

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Olga Khazan
2018
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The Extra Stigma of Mental Illness for African-Americans

Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.

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Dana Givens
2020
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Why Shaming Your Children Is a Bad Idea and What You Can Do Instead

As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?

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Shefali Tsabary
2015
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How Children Develop Toxic Shame

The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.

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Laura Markham, Ph.D.
2016
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Why Shaming Your Kids Isn't Effective Discipline

Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.

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Jennifer Wolf
2020
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From Shame to Self-Worth

Our topic is the sometimes difficult but always rewarding path from shame to worth. In this article, we will look at where shame comes from, in human evolutionary history, and in personal development.

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Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
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Talking with My Children About Sex Without Shame

I wanted to give them better than what I had. It wasn't easy.

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Nadia Bolz-Weber
2019
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If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, Then You’re Doing It Wrong

Many equate self-discipline with living a good, moral life, which ends up creating a lot of shame when we fail. There’s a better way to build lasting, solid self-discipline in your life.

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Mark Manson
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How to Live Our Most Meaningful Lives with Compassion and Self-Love

In 1989, at one of the first international Buddhist teacher meetings, Western teachers brought up the enormous problem of unworthiness and self-criticism, shame and self-hatred that frequently they arise in Western students’ practice.

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Jack Kornfield
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Reaching Out for Compassion

At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.

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Tara Brach
2014
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