Harriet Lerner is an American psychologist and preeminent voice on the psychology of women, family, and relationships. She is the author of several books on these subjects, including the New York Times bestseller The Dance of Anger.
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Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. . . . It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.
Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.
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Do not let us mistake necessary evils for good.
Do not dare not to dare.
Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point, which means at the point of highest reality.
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
Love is something more stern and splendid than mere kindness.
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Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say ‘My tooth is aching’ than to say ‘My heart is broken.’
Intelligence plus character — that is the goal of true education.