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Why Can’t We Think Straight When We Get Defensive?

By Sharon Strand Ellison — 2013

Defensiveness lives in our bodies; It’s not just a matter of controlling ourselves; the minute we feel any kind of threat it takes over. So how to we get rid of it?

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See How this Single Question Saved a Marriage

This story is about a situation where Todd, a husband, almost left his wife and kids, and the wife found a way to ask one non-defensive question that led to a conversation that saved the marriage.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2013
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The Art of the Metaphor - Jane Hirshfield

How do metaphors help us better understand the world? And, what makes a good metaphor? Explore these questions with writers like Langston Hughes and Carl Sandburg, who have mastered the art of bringing a scene or emotion to life. Lesson by Jane Hirshfield, animation by Ben Pearce

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Jane Hirshfield
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Saeed Jones: Writing Yourself Out of “The Room”

In this clip from Overheard, poet and author Saeed Jones talks about why he wrote his memoir, “How We Fight for Our Lives.”

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Saeed Jones on Growing Up Black and Gay in the South | Xtra

Xtra’s senior editor Eternity Martis spoke to Saeed Jones, author of How We Fight For Our Lives, about writing, self-care, protest and how people of colour and LGBTQ2 folks can fight for their lives in the Trump era.

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Saeed Jones
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How One Girl Stopped a Boy from Ever Bullying Her Again

This story is about a 10-year old girl who stopped a bully from harassing her with one non-defensive question.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
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Harassment in the Workplace

This story is about a young woman who was being sexually harassed by her supervisor and was able to ask a question that prompted the supervisor to completely shift his behavior.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2013
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Ego and Defensiveness in Communication: Sharon Strand Ellison

Sharon Strand Ellison, the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words, is a pioneer in the field of eliminating defensiveness. An international communication consultant and award-winning speaker, Sharon is the Founder and Executive Director of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
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