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Why Can’t We Think Straight When We Get Defensive?

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Defensiveness lives in our bodies; It’s not just a matter of controlling ourselves; the minute we feel any kind of threat it takes over. So how to we get rid of it?

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Passive-Aggressive Behavior & Conflict

Passive-aggressive people: Could you be one of them? Passive-aggressive people don't get mad, they get even. When conflict triggers an emotional response, the passive-aggressive pattern is for revenge, by some form of sabotage.

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World Peace Starts at Home | Julie Schwartz Gottman | TEDxVeniceBeach

Using the findings from The Gottman Institute’s studies of love and diplomacy, world-renowned relationship expert Julie Schwartz Gottman tries to understand how to create peace in the world by dissecting human communication.

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How Can You Have More Power By Being Non-Defensive?

A short talk on how shift from ways of using power in our interactions that are defensive and lead to power struggle to gaining far greater power by using non-defensive communication skills.

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Six Patterns of Defensive Communication: Sharon Strand Ellison

Sharon Strand Ellison, the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words, is a pioneer in the field of eliminating defensiveness. An international communication consultant and award-winning speaker, Sharon is the Founder and Executive Director of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication.

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The Conflict Resolution Toolbox

Gary Furlong of Agree Dispute Resolution joins SCI’s Joshua Gordon to discuss the latest edition of his essential text, The Conflict resolution Toolbox. Gary’s toolbox provides key ways to diagnose a conflict and take action—a fundamental skill on and off the pitch.

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Conflict Resolution and Sports

Carter School for Peace and Conflict Resolution: Basketball coach Craig Esherick talks about conflict resolution and sports.

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The Best Conflict Resolution Technique: How to Have Effective Conflict Resolution in Your Marriage

These conflict resolution steps will help you resolve age-old arguments in your relationship.

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