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On Grandiosity and Shame—Esther Perel and Terry Real

By Esther Perel — 2019

I am joined by Terry Real for a conversation about grandiosity, shame, and the part that they play in relationships. Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher. See more...

02:59 min

FindCenter Quotes ImageWe cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

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The Black community is more inclined to say that mental illness is associated with shame and embarrassment. Individuals and families in the Black community are also more likely to hide the illness.

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How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

As a clinical psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy.

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Overcoming Toxic Emotions: A Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with Yourself and Others

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FindCenter Quotes ImageAnger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a...

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FindCenter Quotes ImageOur society doesn’t promote self-acceptance and it never will. First of all, self-acceptance doesn’t sell products. Capitalism would fall if we liked ourselves the way we are now. Also, people who feel shamed and inadequate themselves tend to pass it on.

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