We must not confuse letting go of past injuries with feeling an obligation to let the injurers back into our life. The freedom of forgiveness often includes a firm boundary and loving distance from those who have harmed us.
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Bessel van der Kolk on Trauma, Development and Healing
By David Bullard — 2014
Internationally acclaimed clinician, educator and researcher Bessel van der Kolk shares some observations from his 40-year passion for understanding and treating people who have experienced trauma.
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