By Beverly Engel — 2017
These four avenues can lead you toward self-forgiveness.
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At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.
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Compassion gets a lot of attention in positive psychology, and for good reason – it’s a major concern of many religious and philosophical leaders, including the Dalai Lama and Pope Francis.
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Psychology of compassion is discussed (part 2)
How do shame and compassion relate to one another?