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Why Shaming Your Kids Isn't Effective Discipline
By Jennifer Wolf — 2020
Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.
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When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.1
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