I learned again and again in my life, until you get your own act together, you’re not ready for Big Love. What you’re ready for is one of those codependent relationships where you desperately need a partner.
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Be Kind to Yourself
By Pema Khandro — 2021
You have enlightened nature, says Pema Khandro Rinpoche. If you truly know that, you’ll always be kind to yourself.
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