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A Rabbi’s Guide on Making Amends and Letting Those Grudges Go

By David Wolpe — 2021

Judaism offers a series of ideas and guidelines for how to cope with offense and foster forgiveness. On Yom Kippur, it’s traditional to wear white, not only because white shows the slightest stain, but to remind us of the shrouds in which we will one day be buried. We do not have forever; we must struggle to right our souls now.

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Transformance—What Can Happen When Shame Lifts

Sheila Rubin writes about transformance, a term used to describe “the force in the psyche that’s moving towards growth and expansion and transformation,” and the idea that healing is “not just an outcome but a process that exists within each person that emerges in conditions of safety.”

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Sheila Rubin
2018
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How to Transform Shame Over the Holidays

There’s an expectation of what is supposed to happen during the holidays: images of a family gathered around a tree, presents, food, love and connection as people smile at each other. But if your family is different, there sometimes can be shame.

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Sheila Rubin
2017
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Shame and Countertransference

Sheila Rubin discusses her ideas on Healing Shame. Shame can bind with fear to create social anxiety. Shame can also bind with happiness, or get in the way of happiness.

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Sheila Rubin
2016
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