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‘I Put My Own Life on Hold’: The Pain and Joy of Caring for Parents
By Aidan Gardiner — 2019
After The Times published a pair of articles on elder care—one about a Connecticut home health aide and another about women forgoing careers to care for older relatives—hundreds of our readers shared their own experiences with the hardships of trying to make the final years of a loved one’s life comfortable.
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