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I Teach a Course on Happiness at Yale: This is How to Make the Most of Your Resolutions
By Laurie Santos — 2021
By recognising the ways our minds lead us astray, we can be sure not to squander the powerful fresh start effect of the new year. Doing so requires overcoming the overwhelming cultural urge to pursue total change, as well as extending ourselves a little grace.
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Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.3