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Marriage becomes hard work once you have poured the entirety of your life’s expectations for happiness into the hands of one mere person. Keeping that going is hard work.

By Elizabeth Gilbert
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Elizabeth Gilbert is an American author and journalist, most commonly recognized for her 2006 memoir, “Eat Pray Love.” She was named by TIME magazine as one of the 100 most influential people in the world and is on Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 list of visionaries and influential leaders.

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FindCenter Quotes ImagePeople’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageIntimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationships.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageHow relationships unfold with the most important people in our lives depends on courage and clarity in finding voice. This is equally true for our relationship with our self.

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