By Shelly Tygielski — 2019
We all know when we’re feeling overwhelmed, but learning to press the pause button starts with being vulnerable enough to claim your healing time.
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Last spring an 18-year-old college freshman who got straight A’s in high school—but was now failing several courses—came to my office on the campus where I work as a psychologist.
Shelly Tygielski explores how consistently showing up for yourself first lays the foundation for our life’s purpose—showing up for others—and how to create your own self-care practice.
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There’s something empowering and dignifying about the act of asking for help when it is genuinely needed.
I couldn’t keep “proving everyone wrong” and still do all the things I wanted to do with my life.
We should remember that while disabled people can become good at asking for help, few of us are entirely comfortable with it.
Unsurprisingly, burnout is a major problem in college. A 2021 Boston University study found that more than half of the 33,000 surveyed college students experienced anxiety or depression. And 83% of respondents said their mental health hurt their academic performance.
We become more effective agents of change when we are nurturing our own happiness and personal growth.
When it comes to transitioning, you have to ask for help. This applies to mental health, fitness, and most importantly, to career transition.
“If there’s something I can do to help, don’t be afraid to ask.” This is a courtesy friends and family often extend to you as a caregiver. You thank them, but then how often do you follow up? What is it that’s holding you back from accepting their offer?
People wildly underestimate the odds that others will help us, says social psychologist Heidi Grant. From strangers to colleagues to friends, we think people are likely to reject our request, and that leads to people not asking for help as much as we should.