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Asking for Help



We all need help from time to time, but some of us have trouble asking for it. Sometimes it’s because we grew up in families or circumstances where no help was readily available, or we were criticized for needing it. Sometimes it’s because our current situation makes finding the help we need an overwhelming prospect. Whether our difficulties rest in figuring out what we need, finding the right person to ask, or working out how to word our request, there are many strategies available to discover and tap into the support many of those around us are eager to give.

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How to Ask for Help—and Get a “Yes” | Heidi Grant

Asking for help is tough. But to get through life, you have to do it all the time. So how do you get comfortable asking? In this actionable talk, social psychologist Heidi Grant shares four simple rules for asking for help and getting it—while making the process more rewarding for your helper, too.

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MAYDAY!: Asking for Help in Times of Need

Do you know the etymology of the word mayday? It comes from the French “m’aidez” (pronounced much like the English word mayday). It literally translates to “help me.” Whenever we use the word or send out a mayday signal, that’s literally what we mean: help me.

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Why Is It So Hard to Ask for Help?

We all have moments in our lives when we require the assistance of others. We don’t ever know all there is to know or have the skills to do everything proficiently or successfully. We certainly don’t expect that of others, either.

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My Story of Being Academically Dismissed from College

I’m sharing an experience where I was academically dismissed from college and how I turned it around.

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Reinforcements: How to Get People to Help You

Humans have a natural instinct to help others. Imagine walking up to a stranger on the subway and asking them for their seat.

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Why Is Asking for Help So Difficult?

In a society largely based on helping yourself — just go to any bookstore or library and browse the voluminous self-help section — it may seem odd to promote the idea that we need to learn better ways to ask for and receive assistance. But a small movement is saying just that.

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How to Ask for Help Without Feeling Needy | Kati Morton

From a licensed therapist, here are five tips to help you when you need to ask others for help—whether it be from friends, family, or a health professional—and you don’t want to feel needy while doing so.

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The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help

Rock star, crowdfunding pioneer, and TED speaker Amanda Palmer knows all about asking. Performing as a living statue in a wedding dress, she wordlessly asked thousands of passersby for their dollars.

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A Social Psychologist Explains Why We Should Ask for Help More Often

People wildly underestimate the odds that others will help us, says social psychologist Heidi Grant. From strangers to colleagues to friends, we think people are likely to reject our request, and that leads to people not asking for help as much as we should.

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Why Are We Afraid to Ask for Help?

Why are we afraid to ask for help? Does this situation sound familiar to you? You find yourself faced with an obstacle, challenge, or other situation that feels almost impossible to overcome.

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