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What Is Forgiveness?
By Frederic Luskin — 2010
Forgiveness expert Fred Luskin explains what it takes to give up a grudge.
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I think that if God forgives us we must forgive ourselves. Otherwise, it is almost like setting up ourselves as a higher tribunal than Him.
