By La Sarmiento — 2019
Creating spaces where the need to assimilate, conform, and belong are no longer important
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By the time you reach your 30s, you think you know yourself—your likes, your dislikes, what inspires you, what makes you tick. But there I was, at 36 years old, realizing I didn't know myself at all.
So many of the little rituals I have each day—like my makeup or skincare routine—do help soothe and/or rejuvenate me. For me, any type of solo practiced routine is good. But I’ve learned that self-care does not, and cannot, sustain me. And I believe that this may be the case for many of you.
Hand-wringing about the sanctity of women’s sports reflects an unwillingness to understand what it truly means to be transgender.
I hear repeatedly that women, people of color, and others whose identities differ from the dominant culture, feel relentless pressure to hide aspects of their identities and conform in order to be accepted, to “fit in,” and to succeed.
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“In the moment, how many times have you felt something was off and your well-meaning friends have met you with, ‘Well, are you sure? Where’s the evidence?’” asks Jasmine Marie, an Atlanta-based breathwork practitioner and the founder of Black Girls Breathing.
Mining my spirit for enlightenment, I have been able to unearth treasures of boundless compassion such that I feel genuine appreciation for everyone and everything. Instead of complaining, I commit to using all that is dumped on me to fertilize my wisdom, courage and determination.
More and more women are discovering after years of marriage to men, and having had children, that they are lesbians. Were they always—or is sexuality more fluid?
These black women and gender-nonconforming individuals have created a space for other young girls and nonbinary persons to feel seen and heard.
Treatment for breast cancer is difficult for any woman, but for a lesbian, it can be especially difficult.
She likes pink, will dance to Blurred Lines, occasionally fakes an orgasm… and worries that the sisterhood would not approve. America’s brightest new essayist talks about the dark side of her fierce, funny writing.