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Pleasing Parents



Our parents are usually the primary shapers of our early sense of ourselves and our future. Most of us grow up wanting to please our parents and have them be proud of us, but when our parents’ vision for our lives differs from our own, we can operate under enormous emotional, mental, and financial pressures to please our parents, leading us to make choices or behave in ways that are contrary to our authentic identity or values. Many of us operate for years under this pressure, pursuing hobbies, careers, or even relationships that don’t fulfill our wants or needs. When we assert our own desires, we can be made to feel like we are attacking or rejecting them, their values, or even our larger family and culture. Finding the strength—and compassion—to reestablish our relationship on our own terms is part of our path to well-being.

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The Truth about Sports Parents

How kids really feel when their parents watch their games.

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Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of narcissistic, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life.

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Parental Approval and the Adult Child

When adult children feel that their parents do not support them, the pain is evident. And so we have what seems like an enigma: Why seek out connection with parents they’ve specifically defied? Why do these adult children need the approval of their parents even when they don’t agree with them?

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FindCenterWho are you outside of what you’ve been told you should be?

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Do Athletes Face Unnecessary Parent Pressure?

Are you putting too much pressure on your children to get a sports scholarship? That kind of pressure on kids doesn’t work very well.

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How to Let Go of the Need for Approval

When we urgently aim to please other people, we’re seeking approval of self from outside sources. And whenever we reach for something in the outside world to give us what we should be giving ourselves, we set ourselves up for disappointment.

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"My Parents Don't Support Me As An Artist"

DISCLAIMER: This vid...feels risky. I'm praying to god that this doesn't come off wrong--I am NOT at ALL trying to bash young artists, call anyone untalented, or discourage anyone from becoming an artist. My main point was that support comes from hard work, not the other way around.

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FindCenterIt must be exhausting to feel as if your worth comes from winnowing yourself down to other people’s opinions of who you should be.

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Parental Pressure Takes a Toll on Young Athletes

There is a fine line between parental support and pushiness.

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Parents Who Pressure Their Sports Kids

In “Mental Training Sessions with Doc,” Dr. Patrick Cohn answers your sports psychology and mental training questions about sports parents who pressure their kids.

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