Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. . . . It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
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How to Cultivate Equanimity Regardless of Your Circumstances
By Toni Bernhard — 2011
A calm mind and even temper can help make peace with life’s difficulties.
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