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102 - Friday Fix: How to Stop Focusing on Things You Can't Control
The Verywell Mind Podcast With Amy Morin
When you put your effort into the things you can control, life gets better. So on today’s Friday Fix, I share how to tell if you’re focusing on things you can’t control and five strategies that will help you stop doing it.
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When you put your effort into the things you can control, life gets better. So on today’s Friday Fix, I share how to tell if you’re focusing on things you can’t control and five strategies that will help you stop doing it.
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