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Jealousy/Envy



Jealousy and envy are strong emotions that focus on the self. Envy is a powerful feeling of longing for what belongs to someone else, and jealousy is an aggressive or vindictive desire to protect or take what we yearn for away from the person who has it. We often experience guilt or shame for having these self-centered feelings, and sometimes even the embodiment of these emotions—how they physically make our bodies feel—is unpleasant. But these are natural feelings that are not bad in and of themselves: they are important signals about where our attention and attitude are focused. When we act on these feelings unexamined, we can cause great harm to our relationships and ourselves. But when we instead pause to look at what gratitude our envy is ignoring or what fear our jealousy is masking, we can use these feelings as powerful motivators for reorienting ourselves toward inner peace and stability.

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Jealous of Someone? Watch This

Jealousy is an incredibly powerful emotion—if you tune into it, you can use it as a tool to figure out what you want. But the flip side of jealousy is envy, and that is one of the most toxic emotions you can feel.

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The Jealousy Cure: Learn to Trust, Overcome Possessiveness, and Save Your Relationship

We’ve all heard tales of the overly jealous spouse or significant other. Maybe we’ve even been that jealous person, though we may not want to admit it. It’s hard to imagine anyone sailing through life without either having feelings of jealousy or being the target of someone’s jealousy.

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Love Your Frenemy

Envy is the dark side of love, but love is the luminous side of envy. Is there a way to harness envy wisely, for growth?

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FindCenterLet us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.

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How to Overcome Envy | Think Out Loud with Jay Shetty

When we feel envious, it has more to do with how we feel about ourselves than about anyone else.

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Envy Is Actually a Very Helpful Emotion

Conventional wisdom says happy people have no use for envy. But jealousy can also be a tool if used wisely.

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9 Ways Parents Can Help Kids Cope with Jealousy

I once had three students who tried out for travel soccer in sixth grade. After only one made the team, the other two spread a lie, saying that the girl had made the team only because her uncle was the coach.

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FindCenterIf you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down on you anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.

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3 Reasons Why Envy and Jealousy Lead to Bullying

All too often kids are snared by the comparison trap. They see the successes and gifts of others but instead of celebrating with them, they can only see their own shortcomings. When this happens, it is easy for envy and jealousy to blossom.

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How to Manage Envy and Jealousy in Your Relationships

Learn to recognize and cope with envy and jealousy

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