The major problem of life is learning how to handle the costly interruptions. The door that slams shut, the plan that got sidetracked, the marriage that failed. Or that lovely poem that didn’t get written because someone knocked on the door.
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Rick Hanson on Intimacy: Me and We
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Rick Hanson — 2015
In relationships, it’s natural to join with others, but it’s also fundamentally important to have a strong sense of your own autonomy. By strengthening your sense of “me”—in effect, establishing a kind of secure base inside yourself—you will be more able to explore “we" out in the world. See more...
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In relationships, it’s natural to join with others, but it’s also fundamentally important to have a strong sense of your own autonomy. By strengthening your sense of “me”—in effect, establishing a kind of secure base inside yourself—you will be more able to explore “we" out in the world.
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