By Adam Grant
When leaders lack the wisdom to question their convictions, followers need the courage to persuade them to change their minds.
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This story is about a mom and a step-dad who had argued a lot over a teenage daughter who was rude and home and unwilling to do her part. The step-dad shifted to using a non-defensive statement and got very different results.
This story is about a situation where Todd, a husband, almost left his wife and kids, and the wife found a way to ask one non-defensive question that led to a conversation that saved the marriage.
People in your life can make you feel bad or wrong by saying one thing to you and meaning something else. You can avoid falling into their traps.
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