Harriet Lerner is an American psychologist and preeminent voice on the psychology of women, family, and relationships. She is the author of several books on these subjects, including the New York Times bestseller The Dance of Anger.
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Harriet Lerner is a clinical psychologist and New York Times Best Selling author who has turned her attention to the subject of apology. Harriet’s talk explores why some people may never get the apology they deserve.
How the "ultimate listening experiment" changes everything. The answer is as simple as the challenge is daunting: Surprise your partner by inviting the very conversation you most dread.
This two-episode special is based on a course that Dr. Harriet Lerner and I did together on her groundbreaking book, “Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.
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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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Psychologist and writer Harriet Lerner explains how defensiveness destroys relationships.
Request an apology when you believe you deserve one, but don't get in a tug of war about it. Instead, be a role model and tender a genuine apology yourself when an apology is due.
When we take rejection as proof of our inadequacies, it’s hard to allow ourselves to risk being truly seen again. . . . The problem arises when shame kicks in and we aren’t able to view our flaws, limitations, and vulnerabilities in a patient, self-loving way.
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Why Won't You Apologize? - Harriet Lerner
Stop apologizing like you went to Miss Manners Apology Finishing School! It’s the heartfelt apology that matters that we need to hold on to.
People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
